longlongwaytogo ([info]longlongwaytogo) wrote,
@ 2008-11-11 11:39:00
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In your opinion, what makes a good friend?
What should a good friend never do? (other than the extremely obvious)
In your opinion, how do you go about making new friends? What sorts of things make people appealing as a friend, for example. What do you personally do to make new friends?

And, once you have friends, no matter how long or short term, how do you go about keeping them?

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"Good Question"
[info]ancientone
2008-11-11 06:15 am UTC (link)
I've had many good friends in my life. Some, are there for only the briefest time. Thats sad. I miss them as I grow up, but they had to take a different path than the one I'm on. What endeared themselves to me was that I could tell them absolutely anything without fear of being misunderstood. And even if I was misunderstood, I knew they cared enough to listen to me. What a good friend should never do is abuse the relationship. Treasure it. Don't use it for personal gain.

I usually make friends by just talking with them. Not too personal at first, just enough to build trust. You show that your interested in them, not what they do, but who they are. Remember, your meeting a person who is not within your sphere of existance. They probably won't share many things you have, like other friends and their interests have.
Just meet other people and be open to them. They'll see you for who you are and if they trust you enough, they'll open up too.
To keep friends, don't suffocate them. Let them do what they need to do. A tulip isn't a rose, no matter how badly you want it to be a rose. Just keeping in touch helps renew who you have become. Its a matter a trust.....

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Re: "Good Question"
[info]longlongwaytogo
2008-11-11 07:21 am UTC (link)
I agree with don't suffocate them, but I also feel that trying to see people is a good part of being a friend, and that being upset if someone keeps brushing you off is pretty normal...

... I'm not good at balancing it.

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[info]ajat
2008-11-12 02:24 am UTC (link)
A good friend is one I am able to trust. There are very few around.

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[info]moar_caffeine
2008-11-12 02:42 pm UTC (link)
I think the two biggest qualities in a good friend are that they:
  1. Never judge or look down on you for your faults and shortcomings.
  2. Are willing to stick around even in the moments when you can be unbearable (e.g. when you are obsessed with something, overanalyzing things, too excited/depressed about something).
I choose those two qualities because they were the two that were always lacking when I lost friends—they weren't willing to stick around look over the fact that I can be pretty damn obnoxious sometimes. (Hell, we all can.)

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[info]longlongwaytogo
2008-11-12 08:00 pm UTC (link)
I hope as a friend I can say this... get the fuck online i desperately need you right now.

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